The real reason your teen is struggling
If you’re worried about your child and what you’ve tried isn’t working, this is why.
You’re focused on what they’re doing that’s scary, frustrating, or worrisome.
And you want it to stop.
Their grades are plummeting.
They’re lying to you.
They have no friends.
So naturally, the conversation you’re having is about stopping their behavior.
But that is not the underlying problem.
The underlying problem is what’s happening before they make a poor choice.
If your child thinks I’m not smart enough, they’ll stop trying in class because they feel dumb.
If they think I shouldn’t have done that, they’ll lie to you because they feel ashamed.
If they think no one likes me, they’ll withdraw to their room because they feel rejected.
So what’s the solution?
Stop talking about the behavior that’s worrying you or driving you crazy.
Instead, change the conversation to uncover what’s happening inside them.
When you want to help your child, address their thoughts and feelings.
That’s the magic sauce.
Imagine how different things could feel…
Dinner feels lighter because your teen actually wants to talk.
You hear, “Hey Mom, can I get your advice?” instead of slammed doors.
You feel close again.
One mom shared:
“I’ll be honest, I was skeptical. I thought, ‘Great, another parenting expert telling me what I’m doing wrong.’ But within two weeks of trying Jeanine’s approach, my daughter actually asked me about her day instead of just grunting. Then last night she said, ‘Mom, I’m really struggling with something. Can we talk?’ I teared up on the spot — I hadn’t heard those words in two years.”
No one ever taught us how to do this.
But I can help you.
🧡 Jeanine
